Yesterday, I posted about keeping your character intact and staying nice through difficult situations. Did you get what I was saying? Do you agree with me on that?
Well, today I’m going to give you seven tips on how you can stay nice, stay true to who and what you are and not be someone’s doormat. Here we go:
1. Be Honest
Always be honest. Honesty is in fact the best policy and the best way to handle things. If you’re not honest with people, you’re allowing them to further their agenda. Sometimes, that agenda may be negative, and you don’t want to be on the other side of that agenda.
2. Be Direct
Always be direct. State the obvious and nothing more. Don’t make excuses for people and their actions. It is what it is.
3. Don’t apologize
Never apologize for who or what you are. I got frustrated because I’m “nice.” Well, it’s who I am. I’m certainly not perfect, but I’m also not a meanie. If you’re nice, pleasant, etc., own it and be proud of it. If not, then we’ll work on that…
4. Focus
Stay focused. This is especially important for those who get emotional quickly in many situations, allowing those emotions to cloud their judgment. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you while masking itself in “niceness.”
5. Less is More
Listen more, talk less. When you talk, you ramble. When you ramble, you become apologetic. Apologetic can equate to being taken advantage of. See #3.
6. One By One
Take each situation in context. That means, take each situation case-by-case. Everybody’s not out to get you, so don’t get into that mode. Sometimes, cases and situations are in fact harmless, so size it up before you determine that it’s bad or you’re ready to go project.
7. Study
Read and watch people. That’s the best way to learn about what’s really going on. Look at their body language. Look at their eye movement. This helps you to determine if you’re dealing with stupidity or genuine character. Knowing the difference in the two can mean all the world in going hard as Bon Qui Qui or sailing along as Get Along Gertrude. You decide.
Finally, trust yourself, work on yourself and know that being nice is not a disease or a disorder. You were made this way and given this wonderful quality for a reason, so don’t fight it. I’m glad I allowed myself to work out this situation the way I did, mainly because my kids were there, and they were watching. And really, that’s all that mattered to me.
Thanks for reading and following along with me this week on this journey of being nice. I’d love for you to share your story and hear about any encounters you’ve had with difficult situations.
So share, comment and/or post your thoughts. And, be nice, or I’ll cut you.
Okay, just kidding.
Not.
Have a great day!!
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